Forget. Me. Not

by helen on June 7, 2013

IMG_5939I was so tired, I almost missed them.  Pretty little periwinkle kisses abounded.  Their tiny faces inviting smiles. Snuggled between the shrubs and hostas, their beauty peeping and winking.

Forget-me-nots.

Like a hand to the forehead.

Forget.

Me.

Not.

Spring has sprung

Spring is a busy time for our family, with 2 children between 10 and 12 years, multiple sports and after-school programs, homework and practices, and my work schedule – it’s been hectic to say the least.

It’s been a fun time too, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed every game – both the cheering for the kids and the chatting with the parents.  But by mid-end of May I noticed I was flagging, feeling weariness and less joie de vivre.

Noticing old patterns

IMG_5938I was about to brace myself, adopt the ‘stiff upper lip’, just ‘work harder’ and plough through, exhaustion be damned.

But I know better.

Forget.

Me.

Not.

Those little winking beauties grabbed me by the eyeballs.  I realized that in the frenzy of goodness, even though activities were intentionally planned and enjoyable, the balance was tipped to over-busy and my body was letting me know.

With some curiosity and acceptance of the tiredness, I was able to search for insights and look at what was needed – renewal – even if it was renewal on the go.

Because, if I am depleted as a mother, wife, friend and business owner, how can I be of service and bring my unique blend of strengths, values and genius out into the world?

Forget. Me. Not.

Start with YOU

Start with yourself.  Figure out how to nourish and renew yourself, in the ever-changing whirlpool of a world we live in.  It’s not selfish.  It’s self-ful.

It may be in small ways, like taking a great book to practice so you can read while between drop off and pick up.  Or calling a friend for a chat on the fly.  Or watching a YouTube video that cracks you up.  Or slowing down and hugging those you love.  Or finding meaning in the ordinary.  Or planning your meals so you can eat nourishing food – even if dinner is at 4pm as you have 2 games to drive to/attend that night.

Heart on Your Hand

photoMy dear, wise and beautiful friend Bethany gave me another image to ponder.  Drawing a little heart on your hand.  As a reminder of love for yourself in all that you do.

My daughter asked if I had had a tattoo.  I said no and explained what it was.  She thought that, if I was going to get a tattoo, that seemed like a good one to get.  I notice that she often draws a heart on her hand now too.

As my garden eases into summer, the forget-me-nots are fading, the sea of blue is now green and so I’ve taken to drawing a heart on my hand.  It’s a reminder to practice self love – whether it’s time for renewal, good food, saying no, saying yes, an early night, laughing, walking, quiet time, fun time – because knowledge of what helps you only gets you so far.

Awareness, Exploration, Application

It’s what you do with the awareness, how you explore it and apply it that makes the difference.

I realized that I need the reminders as I have a tendency for over-busyness.

To remember to tend to myself.  To fill my cup so that it is full to overflowing and I have plentiful reserves to serve those in my world.

What do you do to remember to take care of and love yourself?

I’d love to hear your comments below.

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Linda Brackin June 7, 2013 at 8:57 pm

I loved your forget me not wisdom. I’m definitely gonna draw a heart onto toher hand. As for what I do….
I repeat a favorite quote of mine that I discovered when I got out of graduate school in 1989 and started working in a wellness center in Wilmington. ” Be careful ( full of care) to give yourself the same level of caring concern that you so readily give to others.”
I often walk over to the gazebo at Winterthur Gardens that looks down on a pond with two swans. Since the gazebo has three enclosed sides, I have a “zen like view” of the swans. I then start my meditative gazing a they glide gently through the water, shifting my rhythm of breathing to in tune with the rhythm of swans.

helen June 8, 2013 at 8:15 am

Dearest Linda, I love your quote, another lovely one for my collection. Thanks also for sharing the beautiful image of how you incorporate forget-me-not, mindfulness and peace. Love it. Hxo

Christa Gallopoulos June 8, 2013 at 9:45 am

Dear Helen. Thanks so much for this lovely reminder.

I am taking a sabbatical of some sort, for the whole summer, just to remember how to remember. I made the decision as you must have been writing this post.

I don’t believe in coincidences!

Love. And thank you.

helen June 8, 2013 at 12:36 pm

Thanks so much Christa! I love the idea of a ‘remember how to remember’ sabbatical. Sounds heavenly. I don’t believe in coincidences either. I had written another article to post yesterday and held off as I penned this article in 30 minutes last night – it felt like it needed to be aired. Much love, H.

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