I didn’t know her. But I immediately felt a deep sadness for this family, this wife and mother, who would no longer hold and tend her children and watch them grow up.
My throat ached for the husband and young children who had lost their key love anchor.
As I checked on my sleeping children that night, I felt a deep wave of appreciation for their presence in my life. As my lips brushed their soft little cheeks I thought about the children who are going to bed without their mothers kisses. The children who will live their lives without the constancy and presence of her sacred, maternal love.
I woke up during the night thinking about it. I wrote this article at 4:45am, typing in the dark on my iphone so not to wake anyone.
I hear the snuffled and rhythmic sleeping sounds of my nearest and dearest – my husband, warm by my side, and down the hall I hear my 2 children’s sleep sounds as they dream away (noises clearly audible thanks to seasonal allergies!).
What comes to me at times like this is a deep need to share a message, I guess the message even woke me up to be shared. It’s a call to action.
The message is – Don’t wait.
Don’t wait to tell those you love how much you love them.
Don’t wait for something be perfect before you make a move. (There’s no such thing as perfect anyway, and inspired action is a path of learning and resilience and full-on living).
Don’t wait to bring your innate gifts and talents to the world.
Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity to add in exercise or heathy eating. Start now. Treat your body as the temple that it is.
Don’t wait to show yourself love. There are opportunities throughout each day to be more loving to yourself. Take them.
Don’t wait to prioritize your wants and needs, and get in touch with your strengths and values, and then use them.
Don’t wait until you feel ‘in the mood’ or are ‘not tired’ to make loving time with your partner.
Don’t wait to fully engage in a rich and authentic life.
Don’t wait to show up fully as you.
Don’t wait to kiss your kids or stop the busy-ness and get down on the floor and play with them.
Don’t wait to connect with your inner truth and bring on your own brand of rock star and genius. That’s what the world is waiting for.
Don’t wait to bring some form of mindfulness into your day – the science is in – the benefits are clearly proven.
Don’t wait to appreciate what you already have. Right now. Warts and all. Exactly as it is. Gratitude is a grower of gifts.
Don’t wait to schedule play, to rest, to laugh, to frolic.
Don’t wait to ask for help or support and then receive it, if that’s what’s needed.
Don’t wait to lend a helping hand.
I don’t want to be morbid or strike fear in your hearts but it’s no secret that no day is guaranteed to us.
None of us have a signed contract with life. Time is not a renewable resource.
While we fret and worry about this and that, we miss the link that there are no certainties in life. So with that in mind – what is your don’t wait list?
Write it down and connect with it. Then take the next baby step and keep going.
With any luck you still have many miles and adventures ahead of you. Make each one count.
And if you’re feeling a little stuck or momentarily directionless, here are some great questions -
What am I waiting for?
What’s stopping me?
What can I learn about what’s stopping me and how can I overcome it?
I’d love to hear from you if you’d like to share a comment below.