Beat Rash

by helen on June 6, 2010

This is my first (hopefully of many) guest blogs.  Today my guest co-blogger is none other than my 9 year old son who came to me with an idea.  Take it away Joe….

It’s been a sweltering May here in Wilmington, Delaware and school does not have air conditioning, so the classrooms are often in the high 80s all day. 

Then there’s little league baseball games and practices in the hot sun and humidity. 

This has left Joe’s torso a blistering, blotchy mass of itchy, burning, stinging heat rash.

It makes me squirm just looking at it.

So the other night, Joe came in to my office while I was on a call and dropped a note on my desk titled ‘Beat rash’.  Here’s his concept…

As nasty as heat rash is, Joe tied this kind of sensation to when you beat yourself up with your mind and it gives you that horrible icky, stinging, irritated feeling or as Joey just named it – BEAT RASH

We all know it, but here are some examples….

I can’t believe I pitched so many balls and walked a runner – what’s wrong with me? (that’s Joey)

I shouldn’t have eaten the whole bag of Pirates Booty – I have no willpower! 

I can’t believe I just said that – what an idiot!!

You get the picture.

It’s that self-beating-self that NEVER WORKS and certainly feels bad.

So what do you do?

There are many ways to look at this from a coaching perspective, but let’s take one for an example…

Let’s use the Self Coaching 101 model by Brooke Castillo…. And since it’s Joey (the pitcher) talking we’re using a baseball example…

CIRCUMSTANCE: I walked a batter in the final AAA game of the season putting a runner on base.

UNINTENTIONAL THOUGHT: Oh man, I could have done better

FEELING: Disappointed, sad

ACTION: Throw a bad pitch

RESULT: More negative thoughts about my ability and feel even worse and lose my ability to throw strikes.

Now here comes the calamine lotion for the beat rash – you pick a better feeling thought that is believable to you and then take it through the model….

CIRCUMSTANCE: Same as above.

INTENTIONAL (REPLACEMENT) THOUGHT: The count’s not over and we’re still in the game.

FEELING: Confident, capable

ACTION: Throw strikes

RESULT: Do the best pitching I can do without being distracted by negative thoughts.

And that’s what he did.  One runner walked, many strikes and a few hits.  A great game.

Wishing you beat rash free games and lives.

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Nona June 6, 2010 at 10:40 pm

Your son is so lucky to be learning the art of self coaching so early on in his life!! I hope the heat rash is better soon – and, I love the concept of “beat rash”. Fabulous!! xoxo

Karen November 18, 2010 at 3:16 pm

I love this! I will pass this on to my own ball players! Thanks, Helen!

helen November 19, 2010 at 4:04 pm

So glad it’s helpful Karen!

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